Good friend is ignoring me

[4bronxbombers]

Gimme a minute while I try to take off my lollerskates. Hang on... Okay. I actually like satisfying a woman roughly 5 times more than I enjoy having the favor returned. However, if a woman WON'T return the favor, I just won't do it in the first place; I have principles. I've never claimed that my principles were morally impressive, but I do have them.

To your point about this weirdo making you feel unworthy, that's just what insecure people do. Here is their general 4-point plan-

1. Latch onto someone else; preferably someone vulnerable and lonely.
2. Impose bizarre, unnatural, illogical, and unreasonable demands and "rules" onto said person.
3. Use their inability to conform to said "rules" and demands as ground for transferance of your insecurity onto them. After all, if they really loved you, they would know better than to nuke nasty ................ing burritos and leave the smell behind in your microwave. Yuck!
4. Once ALL the positive energy has been sucked out of said person (and as much negative energy as possible foisted onto them), move on to someone new; preferably someone with more money. Be careful to suck them dry! If they don't emotionally need you 10 times more than you need them, OR still have the courage and/or confidence to talk to other women (or ask for a promotion!), they still have some juice left. Squeeze!

Stash that away as a sort of guideline when trying to identify these kind of people. A good way to find out early on if she's going to be like that is to carefully check out another girl while you're out somewhere. Don't leer or gawk! Just *check.* If she doesn't notice (and be careful- she might just be ignoring it!), do it again. And again, and again, and then some more, because it's awesome. Girls are sew hawt. Do it until she notices.

If her demeanor completely changes, and she becomes bitchy and irrational, don't ever talk to her again. Literally. Just get up from the table and walk away without saying anything. She probably has enough in her purse to cover dinner, anyway.

If she ignores it, calmly tells you to stop doing it, or teases you about it, she feels good enough about herself to not feel threatened by your primitive, caveman like instincts to CHECK OUT GURL. This one is probably a keeper.

I am a genius, and you are all welcome. Hopefully one of the ladies can chime in with advice on how to identify insecure, soul-sucking males early in the relationship. In all seriousness; anyone who doesn't generally feel good about themselves is pathetically incapable of making you feel good about yourself in any valuable way.

I didn't read past that sentence.

[Gringaloca]

"26"...I read your first post of this Thread and thought..."oh man...run now & run fast"...

This woman has way toooo many issues for you to even consider getting physically, let alone, emotionally involved with.

Take it from a woman ...she's going thru a very difficult time (emotionally) herself. You DO NOT want to become part of her emotional instability. It's not something you, or anyone else, can fix...so just leave it alone.

You can thank me later..

[Jax Teller]

Vicki has a sticky keyboard.

[DEADSOX]

I love pleasing women.

[4bronxbombers]

Maybe we should start a new thread?

[26 and counting]

I love pleasing women.

Word.

[26 and counting]

"26"...I read your first post of this Thread and thought..."oh man...run now & run fast"...

This woman has way toooo many issues for you to even consider getting physically, let alone, emotionally involved with.

Take it from a woman ...she's going thru a very difficult time (emotionally) herself. You DO NOT want to become part of her emotional instability. It's not something you, or anyone else, can fix...so just leave it alone.

You can thank me later..

I'm thanking you right now. If she wants advice she can go see her psychotherapist. Most of the time I have no clue what to say when she's rambling on about her problems.

[4bronxbombers]

I love pleasing women.

That's hot....not all men think like that.

ok, back to the original topic of this thread.

[MassNYYfan]

That's hot....not all men think like that.

What? Who are these so-called "men"?

[NyQuil]

That's hot....not all men think like that.

ok, back to the original topic of this thread.

^In heat.

[4bronxbombers]

^In heat.

[Ram Man]

I skimmed this thread quickly and can only say that this script has been played out thousands and thousands of times before and it always ends up badly for the guy. Only the insane would believe that this time is different.

I think you've gotten good advice. Tell her that you're going your own way and don't look back.

[GordonGecko]

What? Who are these so-called "men"?

Seriously!

[Bronson'sCornrows]

I didn't read past that sentence.

It sounds generous, Vicki, but after the type of things I usually do to them, pleasing them orally 3 or 4 times is the only way they won't press charges.

[26 and counting]

It sounds generous, Vicki, but after the type of things I usually do to them, pleasing them orally 3 or 4 times is the only way they won't press charges.

[JeterRodriguezSheff]

Bronson'scornrows is literally the best Red Sox fan in existence.

[26 and counting]

At this point I see only one way that this friendship can survive. I'm not getting anything out of talking with her, and she loves being satisfied orally so much, so we won't talk and I'll just please her orally a few times per week.

That's my new rule. Talk about gaining the upper hand!

[4bronxbombers]

At this point I see only one way that this friendship can survive. I'm not getting anything out of talking with her, and she loves being satisfied orally so much, so we won't talk and I'll just please her orally a few times per week.

That's my new rule. Talk about gaining the upper hand!

Soooo, you're not going to dump her? No offense, but big mistake IMO.

[26 and counting]

No, I'm done with her. I was just joking with last post. She has a way of making me feel inferior, and that's no good for me. As someone said earlier, she's just using me as a crutch to heal her bruised ego.

[b-ball-lunachick]

It sounds generous, Vicki, but after the type of things I usually do to them, pleasing them orally 3 or 4 times is the only way they won't press charges.

omg - you are too funny.


26 -- I don't think anyone was laughing at you..more at this woman..and the fact that most of us have gotten sucked in my some needy guy/woman and been in this position.

[Yankee Fan in Boston]

It sounds generous, Vicki, but after the type of things I usually do to them, pleasing them orally 3 or 4 times is the only way they won't press charges.

No offense, 26, but you have plenty of good advice. It's time to turn the thread over to BC

[NewEraYanks2527]

Whoa what's going on in this thread? The first page is about 26's friend ignoring him and on this page Vicki is all hot and bothered...

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[4bronxbombers]

Whoa what's going on in this thread? The first page is about 26's friend ignoring him and on this page Vicki is all hot and bothered...

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Chris started it......

[Meecham4ever]

The words "good sport" don't spring to mind..this is not the type of woman who would be amenable to an Eiffel Tower.

[26 and counting]

I didn't mention it before, but I should have seen red flags from the beginning. She was telling me how everybody she knows is divorced. Her parents are divorced, her husband's parents are divorced, and several of her friends are divorced. It's as if divorce is all she knows. She just knows a bunch of screwed up people, maybe that's why she's crazy herself. It's all she knows. As a matter of fact, her best friend has been divorced twice and just had her 4th kid with a third man who she's not even married to.

Not only that, when she was born her mom was only 19. Her biological father is some sort of low life who lives in Florida, she's only seen him 4 times in her life. She was raised by her grandparents for the first eight years of her life because her mom was too young and immature to support her. Guess what? Her mom remarried a guy who could support her (albeit many years later) and I guess is doing OK now. Maybe that's why she wants her next man to be rich.

She just had me sucked in from the beginning by being so nice to me. As someone said, she latched on to me because I was lonely and vulnerable, and I was so happy that she was paying attention to me that I just got hooked.

All I gotta say is good luck to the next poor sap who ends up marrying her. I'm just glad that it's not going to be me.

[LongLiveBernie51!]

I didn't mention it before, but I should have seen red flags from the beginning. She was telling me how everybody she knows is divorced. Her parents are divorced, her husband's parents are divorced, and several of her friends are divorced. It's as if divorce is all she knows. She just knows a bunch of screwed up people, maybe that's why she's crazy herself. It's all she knows. As a matter of fact, her best friend has been divorced twice and just had her 4th kid with a third man who she's not even married to.

Not only that, when she was born her mom was only 19. Her biological father is some sort of low life who lives in Florida, she's only seen him 4 times in her life. She was raised by her grandparents for the first eight years of her life because her mom was too young and immature to support her. Guess what? Her mom remarried a guy who could support her (albeit many years later) and I guess is doing OK now. Maybe that's why she wants her next man to be rich.

She just had me sucked in from the beginning by being so nice to me. As someone said, she latched on to me because I was lonely and vulnerable, and I was so happy that she was paying attention to me that I just got hooked.

All I gotta say is good luck to the next poor sap who ends up marrying her. I'm just glad that it's not going to be me.

Man, she really did subject you to hours and hours of self important rambling

[Stick Michael]

All I gotta say is good luck to the next poor sap who ends up marrying her. I'm just glad that it's not going to be me.

Good decision. I was going to suggest faking your own death and assuming a new identity, but yeah, the simpler course of action works as well...

[26 and counting]

Can I ask you something? A couple of weeks ago, she was watching America's Got Talent or whatever and she texted me that Brett Michaels was on, and how he was so hot, and how that's what a man should look like and how she wanted to spend one night with him.

Isn't that worse than me taking an innocent picture with four cheerleaders?

[effdamets]

Can I ask you something? A couple of weeks ago, she was watching America's Got Talent or whatever and she texted me that Brett Michaels was on, and how he was so hot, and how that's what a man should look like and how she wanted to spend one night with him.

Isn't that worse than me taking an innocent picture with four cheerleaders?

Whoa - you need to leave... and on your way out.... light the place on fire!

[THEBOSS84]

Can I ask you something? A couple of weeks ago, she was watching America's Got Talent or whatever and she texted me that Brett Michaels was on, and how he was so hot, and how that's what a man should look like and how she wanted to spend one night with him.

Isn't that worse than me taking an innocent picture with four cheerleaders?

100%

But we already established that this chick is a few aces short of a full deck.

[effdamets]

100%

But we already established that this chick is a few aces short of a full deck.

Are you kidding?
This whackjob is a full deck short of a full deck....

[NYYDragoon]

Can I ask you something? A couple of weeks ago, she was watching America's Got Talent or whatever and she texted me that Brett Michaels was on, and how he was so hot, and how that's what a man should look like and how she wanted to spend one night with him.

Isn't that worse than me taking an innocent picture with four cheerleaders?

Hahahaha. My friend's girlfriend makes jokes about giving BJs to other guys, but if he talks about actresses he thinks are hot she gets mad at him.

[26 and counting]

I just need to point out that she never was my girlfriend, although I wanted her to be. So I didn't make much of that Brett Michaels comment. I thought that maybe since she was just a friend she was joking around or something.

I was over at my friend's house that night watching baseball. We turned it over to the channel and he commented that Michaels looked like a hillbilly.

In all honesty I was a little annoyed by her comment, but I just kind of shrugged it off. If I happened to be in an actual relationship with her, I would have had every right to go off on her. But since she was just my friend, I didn't think it was a big deal.

Yet she sees an innocent picture of me standing with four cheerleaders, and now this is the sixth day that she hasn't talked to me. This chick is a freakin' trip.

[West Texas]

Whoa - you need to leave... and on your way out.... light the place on fire!

You are always one for good advice.

[effdamets]

Hahahaha. My friend's girlfriend makes jokes about giving BJs to other guys, but if he talks about actresses he thinks are hot she gets mad at him.

Those kinda beeyatches kill me... what do they think, that they're the only creatures on earth?
F*ck them!

[effdamets]

I just need to point out that she never was my girlfriend, although I wanted her to be. So I didn't make much of that Brett Michaels comment. I thought that maybe since she was just a friend she was joking around or something.

I was over at my friend's house that night watching baseball. We turned it over to the channel and he commented that Michaels looked like a hillbilly.

In all honesty I was a little annoyed by her comment, but I just kind of shrugged it off. If I happened to be in an actual relationship with her, I would have had every right to go off on her. But since she was just my friend, I didn't think it was a big deal.

Yet she sees an innocent picture of me standing with four cheerleaders, and now this is the sixth day that she hasn't talked to me. This chick is a freakin' trip.

You shrugged it off like a normal human being. Instead of taking issue with it like some attention starved, insecure little c***....

[ojo]

it's already been pretty well established, but if i were 26 and counting, it'd be the silhouette of my body frame you'd see that smashed through the door on my way out...

[26 and counting]

You shrugged it off like a normal human being. Instead of taking issue with it like some attention starved, insecure little c***....

I want her to call me back for no other reason than to tell her that I take back any apology I made, because she was WAY out of line in her reaction and I did nothing wrong. It's not like I took a picture of myself screwing those girls. And that I do not tolerate that kind of behavior coming from her in any way.

She still has me as a facebook friend. I've hidden her because I really don't feel like reading any of her posts.

Speaking of facebook, she definitely uses it as an outlet to hide her troubled life. If you read her page, you would think that she has the happiest life of anybody in the entire world, and how wonderful her son is. In reality, that kid has serious behavioral issues. He's a spoiled little brat who doesn't respect his elders, and he even swears all the time. Last time I was at the park, I asked him if he knew who the Miami Dolphins were, because they are his dad's favorite football team. He replied, "the Miami Dumbasses." I kid you not.

[ojo]

I want her to call me back for no other reason than to tell her that I take back any apology I made, because she was WAY out of line in her reaction and I did nothing wrong. It's not like I took a picture of myself screwing those girls. And that I do not tolerate that kind of behavior coming from her in any way.

She still has me as a facebook friend. I've hidden her because I really don't feel like reading any of her posts.

don't get into the 'micro' with a girl like that.

always remember the 'macro' and where the micro will land you.

[allybear]

Holy crap. One of the best things I ever read is that a relationship shouldn't be 50/50, it should be 100/100. Whatever relationship you would have with this chick wouldn't even be 50/50, it sounds like 100/0, in bed and everywhere. I'm glad you've thought better of getting involved with her.

[CanoForPresident]

I want her to call me back for no other reason than to tell her that I take back any apology I made, because she was WAY out of line in her reaction and I did nothing wrong. It's not like I took a picture of myself screwing those girls. And that I do not tolerate that kind of behavior coming from her in any way.

She still has me as a facebook friend. I've hidden her because I really don't feel like reading any of her posts.

Why don't you just delete her? That way she'll call you in a frenzy to ask "why?" and you can go ahead and tell her.

[Bronson'sCornrows]

Chris started it......

Wow... the first woman I've ever excited electronically. Well, there was this other time, but then the batteries in her "hand massager" died and, well, that was the end of that. I am pleased to note, however, that the end of the electronic stimulation did NOT signal the end of the digital stimulation. I guess I'm more high tech than I thought.

[26 and counting]

Why don't you just delete her? That way she'll call you in a frenzy to ask "why?" and you can go ahead and tell her.

Last time she got mad at me and didn't speak to me for four days, I went one step further than that. I blocked her. And I don't think that would get her to call me back, because she pretended like it never happened when I had to request her as a friend again.

I'm going to keep her on to see if she deletes me! Even though I've hidden her posts, I can still type in her name and it still shows up. I want to see how long this lasts for.

[ojo]

you sound about as big of a mess as she does.

why play it out? life's too short to deal in the staticky babble of inconsistent people.

[GordonGecko]

26, and other guys this may apply to. If there's any advice I can give is to always stand up for yourself and be in charge from day 1. That doesn't mean bossing her around or being a dick, it means telling her how you see it and if she doesn't like it it's too bad for her.

The first time you bend is the last time you will ever have any sort of standing in the relationship. Many women will try to boss YOU around, and you probably realized this at some point but if you follow everything she tells you, instead of making her like you more she actually loses respect for you.

Don't hate the player hate the game

[26 and counting]

I don't think she ever respected me anyways because of the fact that I don't have a good job and I'm still living with my folks. Although now I'm finally making some changes because I'm going to taking night classes. Which is why I haven't been on the game threads and haven't watched that much baseball this year. Everything else seems secondary until I get on my feet with a better job so that I can move out and become more independent.

I think now that she pretended to respect me so that she could get me to listen to all of her personal problems.

[26 and counting]

OMG I think that she just tried to call because on my phone it came up as a blocked #. She didn't leave a message though.

[NYYDragoon]

Backhand her. From the hip.

[GordonGecko]

She's probably following you around when you drive and bugged your phones

[26 and counting]

Well if she blocked my number, does that means that none of those text messages got through and she never saw my apologies? If that's the case, then that's great.