Back in high school, I was sitting in front of a girl in my homeroom class. We had never really talked before. It was getting close to the senior prom and neither of us had a date, so she asked me if I would go with her, and I said sure. After that nothing happened, it was kind of a "Thanks for being my prom date, have a nice life."
Fast foward 14 years. I had been on facebook for quite some time. You know how it is on facebook, how you add just about everybody you knew from when you went to school, but don't think about it too much! Well, a few months ago I was on there one night, and she started chatting with me. She said that she was going through a difficult divorce, and immediately started getting into the whole story. She said that she remembered me from high school, how I was always "genuinely sweet". We chatted for about 20 minutes, then she gave me her number and asked me to call her because her fingers were getting tired for typing. So I called, and we talked for about an hour that night.
Ever since then, she has been my best friend. I have been sort of her support cable for all of the problems that she's been going through. Usually she's the one who calls me, sometimes multiple times per day.
The one thing that I have noticed about her is that she is ultra-sensitive, and can't really take a joke. I have slipped a couple of times, and have said some things that I maybe I shouldn't have, and she got pretty mad. The first time was when I mentioned a woman that I was thinking of asking out, and she flipped out. But she did call back the very next day.
The second time she got mad was a couple of months ago. She's a teacher, and was counting down the days to summer vacation. She was rubbing it in to me that she would get two months off from work and I would still have to work all summer. So I joked to her that once her countdown ended, another countdown would start to when she had to go back to work. I don't think I said anything rude or insensitive, but she told me to F off and then said that she was going to delete me from her phone. I really thought that the friendship was over, but four days later she pretended like nothing happened and called me back.
I think that she has started to develop feelings for me even though she insists that she's not going to do anything dating-wise for at least a year after the divorce. She keeps saying how when she remarries she wants somebody who makes a lot of money. That's obviously not me right now, because currently I am going to school in order to get a better job. However, I keep getting these little hints that suggests that she really likes me. Like in the way that she says goodbye in cute ways over the phone, and her body language toward me in the few times that I've met her and her son at the park.
On Saturday, I went with my dad to the Hartford Whalers reunion at Rentschler Field in East Hartford. I sent her some pictures of what I saw, but probably should have left one out. There were some cheerleaders from the new football team and I took a picture with them. I didn't think it was any big deal. When she saw that, she totally flipped out. She texted me back how she lost all respect for me, and this is the reason why she hates men, that they are all pigs, blah blah blah. I immediately said after that how I thought she would find it funny, but now I realize that it was a mistake to send that, and I apologize.
It's been five days, and she hasn't called me back. Also, I texted her a couple of more apologies, but she hasn't responded. I don't get it, because if she insists that we're just friends, why would she get so offended by that picture? The only thing I could think of is that her soon-to-be-ex has been hanging out with some younger girls recently, and maybe she's annoyed by that. Or maybe she really does have feelings for me and was hurt by seeing me in that context.
But this has been the longest she has ever gone without talking to me, and now I'm getting worried. I want to remain friends with her, as I have valued this friendship greatly since Day 1 a few months ago. Some people that I've talked to said not to worry, some women will go two weeks, maybe even a month before getting back in touch after getting angry. One positive factor is that she hasn't deleted me on Facebook. If she really wanted me out of her life she probably would have already gotten rid of me on there.
I feel really stupid, embarrassed and upset for sending that picture because the last thing that I want to do is hurt her in any way. But at the same time, I'm getting angry with her because she's giving me the silent treatment, and I think that's kind of rude. I have no idea what's going through her mind right now. I really don't know what to do.
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Originally Posted by 26 and counting
Here's to you, Mr. Robinson. Jesus loves you more than you Cano.
at least as far as it being a romantic relationship. I think Longlivebernie pegged her pretty good -- and the saying that she wants someone with money kind of rubs me the wrong way and further shows, she's looking for someone to take care of her. It doesn't sound like she's ready to date yet but she's kind of acting like you're more than friends with her overreactions to some things. 
28 in 2010
uh oh - sounds like someone has some interesting stories. 
