Good friend is ignoring me

[b-ball-lunachick]

If she's crazy but hot, she still deserves a shot.

Sey - that's bad advice..I think you know that you were just trying to make the new "if the glove fits, you must acquit" line.

[THEBOSS84]

Sey - that's bad advice..I think you know that you were just trying to make the new "if the glove fits, you must acquit" line.

Yeah, it just rhymed too well.

But I do think if she'd hot she deserves at least one bang....then he can decide what to do from there.

[hardrain]

Time to get out of namby-pamby land, my friend.

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[NYYDragoon]

If she's crazy but hot, she still deserves a shot.

I dunno dude. That's how they get you. And then kill you.

[CanoForPresident]

Yeah, it just rhymed too well.

But I do think if she'd hot she deserves at least one bang....then he can decide what to do from there.

Dude thats like the worst possible thing he could do...

Shes already trying to control his life crazy, which isn't all to far from showing up at his door with a 9mm crazy.

[NyQuil]

Also: cheerleader pics?

Word.

Also, how is she in relativity to the Vicky Mendoza Diagonal?

Dude, she's crazy, run away.

[THEBOSS84]

Dude thats like the worst possible thing he could do...

Shes already trying to control his life crazy, which isn't all to far from showing up at his door with a 9mm crazy.

I'm always there when people need some sound advice.

[Jax Teller]

Give her a Roman Helmet.

[26 and counting]

She sounds neurotic and materialistic, stay away man. I don't know your personal life but it can't be that bad, right? There are lots of good (and attractive) women out there who won't put you in the asylum & poor house

Well I'm working in a supermarket not making much money, still living at home with my folks, but I have finally made the move to go back to school and improve my life. In a year I will be graduating and hopefully will be getting a decent job in the billing/insurance aspect of the medical field.

I probably fell for this woman because I was never confident about myself. I only had one girl before this and it ended badly. Then this woman started giving me attention and it made me feel special. Honestly, that's what happened.

I can see now that my feelings for her have blinded my common sense. It's true, sometimes when you put things down in writing, you can see that it just doesn't add up to something that's positive and promising.

[CanoForPresident]

Word.

Also, how is she in relativity to the Vicky Mendoza Diagonal?

Dude, she's crazy, run away.

That chart was one of the first things I thought of while reading through this thread

That episode and the "March Madness" one ................ing killed me.

[26 and counting]

Give her a Roman Helmet.

I had never heard of that before. Just looked it up, that's gross!

[LongLiveBernie51!]

Yeah, it just rhymed too well.

But I do think if she'd hot she deserves at least one bang....then he can decide what to do from there.

Not going to happen. She's in control and she's going to keep it that way.

[LongLiveBernie51!]

I probably fell for this woman because I was never confident about myself. I only had one girl before this and it ended badly. Then this woman started giving me attention and it made me feel special. Honestly, that's what happened.

I think you hit the nail on the head. If I was you, I'd focus on your professional career and build confidence in yourself. When you become more confident and respect yourself more, you will attract more women who will respect you. Or at the very least, you'll be quicker to see the crazy ones for who they are and ditch them early.

[26 and counting]

I think you hit the nail on the head. If I was you, I'd focus on your professional career and build confidence in yourself. When you become more confident and respect yourself more, you will attract more women who will respect you. Or at the very least, you'll be quicker to see the crazy ones for who they are and ditch them early.

That's exactly what somebody in school told me yesterday. I don't need to be worried about this relationship stuff right now. Just go to school, work hard, and get good grades.

I'm glad that I started talking about this with other people rather than keep everything inside. Even this is helping my confidence. When she calls me, I just have to have the courage to tell me that I am not feeling guilty for that picture, and that I will not tolerate any of that type of behavior from her. She was way out of line in reacting like that.

That's all I need to say. Then maybe she'll realize that I'm not a little pawn for her game.

[26 and counting]

Well, off to work. I can't wait to see more responses on this when I get home later tonight. Thanks for the advice everyone!

[LongLiveBernie51!]

That's exactly what somebody in school told me yesterday. I don't need to be worried about this relationship stuff right now. Just go to school, work hard, and get good grades.

I'm glad that I started talking about this with other people rather than keep everything inside. Even this is helping my confidence. When she calls me, I just have to have the courage to tell me that I am not feeling guilty for that picture, and that I will not tolerate any of that type of behavior from her. She was way out of line in reacting like that.

That's all I need to say. Then maybe she'll realize that I'm not a little pawn for her game.

I think you also have to be ready for the possibility that she pretends to understand because she is lonely and wants your attention back and then calls your bluff by pulling this nonsense again.

It may eventually mean cutting her off completely.

[JeterRodriguezSheff]

Didnt read all the comments, but it sounds like she wants you there to be "choice b" if she cant find anything better. Dont become choice b.

[JeterRodriguezSheff]

Forgive my complete honesty but it's obvious that you want to be more then just friends even though you are trying to convince yourself otherwise.

It's also obvious that this woman is going through a divorce and got in touch with a guy that she had one experience with in high school that centered around her getting a prom date when she had none. She now has you in the "he'll always be there for me when I need him" catagory and once you get in there, it's an uphill battle to be thought of as anything more.

In summary, She's upset about the divorce and wants a "guy she can count on" for attention. You made an impact by coming through for her with the prom so she gravitates back to you. Her being quick to get mad is her playing games to be in control and get more attention therefore proving your devotion to her. Unless she has a sudden change of heart, she's just going to use you for attention until the rich man comes and sweeps her off her feet.

I hope she does wake up and see what's she's doing. Good Luck.

yea, pretty much this.

[Hellsing]

Aren't you the same person who is unhappy with their current day job? Do you just love attention? Do you always seek and follow the advice of total strangers?

[NYYDragoon]

Aren't you the same person who is unhappy with their current day job? Do you just love attention? Do you always seek and follow the advice of total strangers?

Aren't you the same person who is always the Internet tough guy? Do you just love being a dick? Do you always seek and try to bring down total strangers?

[Trish]

Everything everyone has said so far is good advice, although admittedly I haven't read the whole thread..

I'll add in, the fact that she has a kid is enough reason to run screaming. Pretty soon you'll end up babysitting for her while she goes out with someone with money.

[Hellsing]

Aren't you the same person who is always the Internet tough guy? Do you just love being a dick? Do you always seek and try to bring down total strangers?

You have me confused with someone else. Sometimes. Not always.

[OlgMvp]

It sounds like the "juice isn't worth the squeeze" here my friend.


Why is she getting divorced anyway? That guy must know something you don't. She must have driven that poor soul up a goddamn wall.

[GordonGecko]

This is one of those things, we all see from a mile away that this woman is neurotic, possessive, unstable, and will be very bad for this guy and will end badly and he probably realizes it too - yet everyone knows he's going to end up with her....

The forcefield of lust & desire

[BxBomber44]

It's hard to listen to your own advice as I can't stop wanting to talk to someone that wants nothing to do with me... but, just got to do it. Good luck

[West Texas]

This is why I am not on Facebook.

[Bronson'sCornrows]

Sleep with her and then tell her to eff off and that you're deleting her from your phone.

Quoted for win.

At the very least, you'll regain the upper hand. Honestly, I think you're sincerely nuts for A. apologizing and B. even considering anything but never talking to her again. I'm sure you can do better than that and as soon as you let your balls drop and man up I'm sure you will.

[Bronson'sCornrows]

Quoted for win.

At the very least, you'll regain the upper hand. Honestly, I think you're sincerely nuts for A. apologizing and B. even considering anything but never talking to her again. I'm sure you can do better than that and as soon as you let your balls drop and man up I'm sure you will.

^I agree.

[THEBOSS84]

Brandon Arroyo just agreed with himself.

[CanoForPresident]

lol wtf?

[Bronson'sCornrows]

I made such a good point that I couldn't help finding myself in mutual agreement.

[26 and counting]

Quoted for win.

At the very least, you'll regain the upper hand. Honestly, I think you're sincerely nuts for A. apologizing and B. even considering anything but never talking to her again. I'm sure you can do better than that and as soon as you let your balls drop and man up I'm sure you will.

If and when she tries to call back, I'm going to tell her that I'm sick of her BS and call it quits with her. This is the third time in four months that she's gotten angry at me for no reason at all. Even if this latest thing with the picture didn't happen, surely something else down the road would have. Trying to live up to her expectations is making me feel unworthy anyways, and I don't need that. Right now I'm just going to think about work and school.

As for my day job, we have new managers and they noticed that I am responsible and trustworthy, so one of them is training me as a Cash Department Head. It's a little more money than I'm making now at least, and I won't have to do the crap jobs like pushing carriages. So I'm feeling better already.

[TheYankee]

Oof. Yeah, Bernie nailed it.

And my advice: Get out, now.

[26 and counting]

It sounds like the "juice isn't worth the squeeze" here my friend.


Why is she getting divorced anyway? That guy must know something you don't. She must have driven that poor soul up a goddamn wall.

Why is she getting divorced? I don't know the guy, never met him, but she's trying to spin it as the divorce being 100% his fault. Obviously that's not the case. There are two sides to every story. She's already making me crazy after only five months. I can't imagine the psychiatric help that this guy must need after 14 years.

I forgot to mention - on the sexual front, she loves to be satisfied, but refuses to return the favor, if you know what I mean. How selfish can one get? Gotta be one reason why the guy ran away.

I started falling for this woman, as I said I was blinded by emotion.

[BobLoblaw]

You need to go out tonight, get some drinks, pick up a cute girl and forget Crazy Lady.

[flymick24]

she needs a nice punch in the ovaries

[TheYankee]

Maybe sleep with her, then get up and say, "Oh, man. I'm breaking out." Then leave.

[THEBOSS84]

she needs a nice punch in the ovaries

Sounds like she'd enjoy it though.

[26 and counting]

Maybe sleep with her, then get up and say, "Oh, man. I'm breaking out." Then leave.

How the hell am I supposed to sleep with her? She's still living with her soon-to-be ex because their crappy house won't sell. They've lowered the house $30K and it still hasn't sold. Plus she's got a four-year old to take care of, and I'm still living at home with my parents. That's why we had to make out in the car that one time.

[GordonGecko]

Haha what a messed up relationship, and you're entertaining this because....

So when is the enslavement *cough* err I mean wedding??

[26 and counting]

Haha what a messed up relationship, and you're entertaining this because....

So when is the enslavement *cough* err I mean wedding??

Umm, I just don't see it happening.

[Yankee Tripper]

How the hell am I supposed to sleep with her? She's still living with her soon-to-be ex because their crappy house won't sell. They've lowered the house $30K and it still hasn't sold. Plus she's got a four-year old to take care of, and I'm still living at home with my parents. That's why we had to make out in the car that one time.

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this post.

Anyway the chick sounds mental and the divorce is probably not helping.

As others have said, lay down the law or she pretty much owns you.

[JDPNYY]

How funny would it have been if everyone ignored this thread from the start?

[TheYankee]

How the hell am I supposed to sleep with her? She's still living with her soon-to-be ex because their crappy house won't sell. They've lowered the house $30K and it still hasn't sold. Plus she's got a four-year old to take care of, and I'm still living at home with my parents. That's why we had to make out in the car that one time.

Yeah, see, that was a joke.

On a side note, this thread is getting fun.

[TheYankee]

And $30,000? Holy... is she living in a trailer?

[Bronson'sCornrows]

I forgot to mention - on the sexual front, she loves to be satisfied, but refuses to return the favor, if you know what I mean. How selfish can one get? Gotta be one reason why the guy ran away.

Gimme a minute while I try to take off my lollerskates. Hang on... Okay. I actually like satisfying a woman roughly 5 times more than I enjoy having the favor returned. However, if a woman WON'T return the favor, I just won't do it in the first place; I have principles. I've never claimed that my principles were morally impressive, but I do have them.

To your point about this weirdo making you feel unworthy, that's just what insecure people do. Here is their general 4-point plan-

1. Latch onto someone else; preferably someone vulnerable and lonely.
2. Impose bizarre, unnatural, illogical, and unreasonable demands and "rules" onto said person.
3. Use their inability to conform to said "rules" and demands as ground for transferance of your insecurity onto them. After all, if they really loved you, they would know better than to nuke nasty ................ing burritos and leave the smell behind in your microwave. Yuck!
4. Once ALL the positive energy has been sucked out of said person (and as much negative energy as possible foisted onto them), move on to someone new; preferably someone with more money. Be careful to suck them dry! If they don't emotionally need you 10 times more than you need them, OR still have the courage and/or confidence to talk to other women (or ask for a promotion!), they still have some juice left. Squeeze!

Stash that away as a sort of guideline when trying to identify these kind of people. A good way to find out early on if she's going to be like that is to carefully check out another girl while you're out somewhere. Don't leer or gawk! Just *check.* If she doesn't notice (and be careful- she might just be ignoring it!), do it again. And again, and again, and then some more, because it's awesome. Girls are sew hawt. Do it until she notices.

If her demeanor completely changes, and she becomes bitchy and irrational, don't ever talk to her again. Literally. Just get up from the table and walk away without saying anything. She probably has enough in her purse to cover dinner, anyway.

If she ignores it, calmly tells you to stop doing it, or teases you about it, she feels good enough about herself to not feel threatened by your primitive, caveman like instincts to CHECK OUT GURL. This one is probably a keeper.

I am a genius, and you are all welcome. Hopefully one of the ladies can chime in with advice on how to identify insecure, soul-sucking males early in the relationship. In all seriousness; anyone who doesn't generally feel good about themselves is pathetically incapable of making you feel good about yourself in any valuable way.

[26 and counting]

And $30,000? Holy... is she living in a trailer?

No, they lowered the price by $30,000. The house was originally selling for $289,900. Now it's at $259,900.

[26 and counting]

Can we close this thread now? I think I've got the point. And you guys have scared me straight.

[TheYankee]

No, they lowered the price by $30,000. The house was originally selling for $289,900. Now it's at $259,900.

Ah, my mistake.

And you want to close the thread? There's too much fun to go around in here. Why ya gotta be a fun hater?

[26 and counting]

Ah, my mistake.

And you want to close the thread? There's too much fun to go around in here. Why ya gotta be a fun hater?

Because it seems like some of you are laughing at my stupidity. Or maybe you're laughing with me. I don't know. But hey, at least I can use this as a learning experience.