Just found out that my best friend is moving..

[WashingtonYankee]

This sucks. Period. My best friend is moving from my home town of Port Townsend, Washington to American Fork, Utah in three weeks because this girl broke his heart and he doesn't think he can get through this. I'm sad to see this. I haven't really lost anyone that moved that is so close to me except like an hour away. I also don't think he's going to get through this break-up with this girl who he says was the one. We're unseperatable and it's just sad to see him move away to Utah because of this one girl. I mean, I'm four hours away from my home town but really, there is not much there left for me at my home town because he was the last person who I was close to who lived there. I don't want to feel selfish but again, I am. I thought I was going to leave him first by moving back to New York. Oh, and for the record I found this on a myspace blog that he was moving. It just breaks my heart. Just needed to vent because I feel like the world is turning it's back on me.

[Jen19]

that does suck. You wonder how you will get through it, right? But you will. And other people will come in to your life too. Maybe not like him, but it'll happen. Hopefully you guys can keep in touch a lot.

[jlw1980]

Have you talked with him about it? It could be just a passing fancy, since he's so upset right now.

Either way, you'll be OK. Both my best friends live away from me. One is only two hours away and the other is across the country, but we talk and e-mail all the time. I'll admit that it isn't the same, and I miss them a lot, but life has a way of moving people in different directions as they get older.

Take care.

[gdn]

Well, my best friend is being deployed to Iraq...so...I know what you must be feeling.

[The Yankee Kahuna]

Well, my best friend is being deployed to Iraq...so...I know what you must be feeling.

My two best friends joined the army and have fought in Iraq. Things aren't the same without them around but you get used to it and hope for the best. They come back like 2 times a year so I get to see them after some time.

[penguin4]

That sux, Brooke. I don't know the exact situation, so I'm probably passing rash judgement here, but it seems a little weird, almost cowardly, for someone to pick up and move away from his hometown to some random town just because he couldn't deal with a breakup.

I know how you feel, though, about being nothing left for you at home. One of my best friends picked up and moved to Seattle a few years ago; I have maybe one friend I keep in touch with who still lives near the town where I grew up. Other than my family, no real ties there anymore (so the fact that I'm in the process of temporarily moving back in with my family is just kinda depressing).

But hey, it's all the more reason to move to New York City, right?

[4bronxbombers]

Sorry to hear this Brooke...my best friend recently moved and as much as we said we'd keep in touch as often as we can....we haven't. Life gets in the way. Luckily she comes to a lot of Yankees games with me so I'll see her then but it's really a bummer. It's very hard to keep in regular touch with someone when they move far away.

[Octoberbaby]

That is tough! I still miss a lot of my friends in N.Y. I see them when I go there but it is not the same.

[krystl]

Wait, I don't understand. Do you live in the same town as him right now?
Also, he hasn't personally told you he's moving? Maybe he posted it on Myspace so his ex would see it and beg him not to go.
My stepson's ex pulled that a few times, telling him she was moving to another state. It's possible that's what she's doing.

[jlw1980]

Sorry to hear this Brooke...my best friend recently moved and as much as we said we'd keep in touch as often as we can....we haven't. Life gets in the way. Luckily she comes to a lot of Yankees games with me so I'll see her then but it's really a bummer. It's very hard to keep in regular touch with someone when they move far away.

It is. I haven't seen my very good friend who lives in Florida for 2 years! Before that, it had been a couple years since I'd seen her! Luckily I'll see her in October for my wedding, in which she'll be a bridesmaid, but I miss her so much. Speaking of that, this thread reminded me to call her! Usually when I think to call her, it's too late for her...and right now it's only 2 hours' difference. When DST begins, it's 3 hours' difference since AZ doesn't change...then it gets even more difficult! The other best friend is only 2 hours away, in the same city as my family, and it's still been over a year since I've seen her! Getting older and moving apart just plain sucks.

[WashingtonYankee]

Wait, I don't understand. Do you live in the same town as him right now?
Also, he hasn't personally told you he's moving? Maybe he posted it on Myspace so his ex would see it and beg him not to go.
My stepson's ex pulled that a few times, telling him she was moving to another state. It's possible that's what she's doing.

Hey Krystl,
I am away at college, four hours away at Central Washington University. He's in my hometown right now. We see each other on the weekends and breaks when I come home. His ex doesn't have myspace. I just realized that I did have her cell phone number just in case she needed to talk to someone about Andrew and I would answer it. I never met her because they were secretly hiding their relationship so no one would find out.

[jlw1980]

Hey Krystl,
I am away at college, four hours away at Central Washington University. He's in my hometown right now. We see each other on the weekends and breaks when I come home. His ex doesn't have myspace. I just realized that I did have her cell phone number just in case she needed to talk to someone about Andrew and I would answer it. I never met her because they were secretly hiding their relationship so no one would find out.

What's the point of a relationship if you're going to hide it? Sorry, I'm just confused.

Have you actually talked to him about this yet? Maybe he just needs some support right now.

[JDPNYY]

Hey Krystl,
I am away at college, four hours away at Central Washington University. He's in my hometown right now. We see each other on the weekends and breaks when I come home. His ex doesn't have myspace. I just realized that I did have her cell phone number just in case she needed to talk to someone about Andrew and I would answer it. I never met her because they were secretly hiding their relationship so no one would find out.

Sounds very secretive.

[Trish]

Hey Krystl,
I am away at college, four hours away at Central Washington University. He's in my hometown right now. We see each other on the weekends and breaks when I come home. His ex doesn't have myspace. I just realized that I did have her cell phone number just in case she needed to talk to someone about Andrew and I would answer it. I never met her because they were secretly hiding their relationship so no one would find out.

If they needed to hide the relationship, it seems for the best that it's over.

Why the secret?

[smr15]

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[WashingtonYankee]

It's a secret because the girl was in a relationship with a guy for almost four years and then she met him. I'll have to admit, I've never seen my best friend like this..... he was like I've met this girl and I want to marry her. They've been having a secret affair for about three months. I told him to not get involved and to watch is back; however, he didn't listen to me. He got involved. According to my best friend, her boyfriend doesn't treat her right and I have to say, my best friend is probably the nicest guy I'll ever meet. My parents always questioned me why I was never in a relationship with him. It's just, I'm not just worried about him leaving... but I'm worried that he's going to start his life over and do something stupid. He told me after Valentine's Day, when I came home that weekend that he almost killed himself on Valentine's Day for her. I want to support my best friend and I will always support him. He won't tell anyone about her except people that know them, and his sister who isn't in Washington right now... but won't even talk to his parents about it. Hell, he almost didn't talk to me about this but I got him to spill out his guts for an hour straight last weekend. I'm just worried about him moving because of her. I know that he's a great guy as I've known him since he moved here from Germany but got really close to him since my freshman year in college. I just feel like he's a total different person. I know he needs help and it's just, what do I do? I know he's better than this. But last night, when I called him and screamed at him for not telling me in person he was like...," Brooke, I need this. If I don't do this, I'll do something stupid."

[Trish]

I just don't understand that whole mindset of threatening to kill yourself over a relationship breaking up. I don't think that's love at all, I think it's obsession and it's sick.

................ happens, man...

[NyQuil]

That really sucks. I felt lost a few years ago after a break up and almost left UB because of it. Then I realized the events were mutually exclusive and decided to stay.

[jlw1980]

Try to talk him into getting some professional help, Brooke. It sounds as though that's what he needs. Be there for him, but try to talk him into seeing his doctor about this. Maybe his doctor can refer him to a psychiatrist and/or counselor. From your description, it sounds pretty clear that he needs some help.

You're a good friend!

[ojo]

It's a secret because the girl was in a relationship with a guy for almost four years and then she met him. I'll have to admit, I've never seen my best friend like this..... he was like I've met this girl and I want to marry her. They've been having a secret affair for about three months. I told him to not get involved and to watch is back; however, he didn't listen to me. He got involved. According to my best friend, her boyfriend doesn't treat her right and I have to say, my best friend is probably the nicest guy I'll ever meet. My parents always questioned me why I was never in a relationship with him. It's just, I'm not just worried about him leaving... but I'm worried that he's going to start his life over and do something stupid. He told me after Valentine's Day, when I came home that weekend that he almost killed himself on Valentine's Day for her. I want to support my best friend and I will always support him. He won't tell anyone about her except people that know them, and his sister who isn't in Washington right now... but won't even talk to his parents about it. Hell, he almost didn't talk to me about this but I got him to spill out his guts for an hour straight last weekend. I'm just worried about him moving because of her. I know that he's a great guy as I've known him since he moved here from Germany but got really close to him since my freshman year in college. I just feel like he's a total different person. I know he needs help and it's just, what do I do? I know he's better than this. But last night, when I called him and screamed at him for not telling me in person he was like...," Brooke, I need this. If I don't do this, I'll do something stupid."

your buddy needs some professional counseling. put on your thinking cap and some how, some way see that he gets it.

[WashingtonYankee]

Thanks guys... I agree and it's just it's going to be hard to tell him this upstraight. I wish I was able to go home this weekend or go home next weekend but like the only time I'll see him is when I say good-bye to him. I just wish it wasn't over the phone. I mean, how do I bring this up?

[xenochimera]

hey man i know exactly how you feel, my buddy ditched those who grew up with him for 10 years for some slut he knew for 1 year, then she broke his heart. but time heals the broken heart, good luck with your friend.

[WashingtonYankee]

hey man i know exactly how you feel, my buddy ditched those who grew up with him for 10 years for some slut he knew for 1 year, then she broke his heart. but time heals the broken heart, good luck with your friend.

Thanks... I'll need it. I think that I have no hope keeping him in Washington.... so, what should I get a guy as a going away present? I'm just hoping he'll come to his senses, hate Utah.... and either move back home or move to New York, where I'll be living soon and where his other best friend lives.

[krystl]

Thanks... I'll need it. I think that I have no hope keeping him in Washington.... so, what should I get a guy as a going away present? I'm just hoping he'll come to his senses, hate Utah.... and either move back home or move to New York, where I'll be living soon and where his other best friend lives.

Why did he pick Utah out of all places?

[Sam18]

so, what should I get a guy as a going away present?

I have a few ideas.

[Trish]

I have a few ideas.

Such as?

[4bronxbombers]

Such as?

Do you really want to know Trish??

[Sam18]

Do you really want to know Trish??

You'd think a person like trish would know right? And she really needs to make her mind up about putting me on her ignore list.

[WashingtonYankee]

Why did he pick Utah out of all places?

Another good friend lives down there.... he would choose NY but he can't afford it.

[krystl]

Another good friend lives down there.... he would choose NY but he can't afford it.

Well, he won't be totally alone at least.